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In his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the late Stephen Covey (RIP) wrote about being proactive. He pointed out that despite our prior “programming” in life we always have a choice point between stimulus and response should we choose to choose it!

To the degree that you choose not to exercise your choice point you become reactive… you let events and the world outside you determine your destiny. In effect, you surrender your personal power!

Are you a prisoner of your own thoughts?

A problem many of us face is that we are not taught that we have this choice point. There are many others, particularly those in authority, who prefer that we don’t exercise our choice point for obvious reasons. Thus, many people are unhappy because they don’t feel that they have control over their lives and, worse still, they don’t believe that they can have control over their lives. Sadly, they become a prisoner of their own thoughts. Covey refers to Viktor Frankl’s remarkable survival in a prisoner of war camp during World War 2 as an example of someone who chose to exercise his choice point.

We’re curious about what you think and first we suggest you watch this clip of Covey being interviewed as he explains this Choice Point…


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Respect other people's model of the worldRespect other people’s model of the world

Now that you know that everyone has their own unique model or map of the world you can easily embrace Empowering Belief #2. An important distinction here is that we are saying respect and not agree or accept.

Just as you want people to respect your point of view so you too can demonstrate to others that you can respect their point of view. A major advantage of being able to do this is that you develop the ability to better appreciate how other people think. When it comes to sales or negotiations this is a critical skill set. Without it you diminish your ability to have influence and as a leader without influence you call into question your right to be a leader in the first place.

To respect another person’s model of the world you must be prepared to accept that person’s beliefs and values for what they are and this requires a high level of rapport and acceptance of the other person. Interestingly, by showing this level of respect you deepen the rapport. If you have a hidden agenda or your intention is to manipulate the other person then you will not be able to create this level of rapport. As they say: “People will see you coming!”

To accept this belief is to accept and understand others as they are… It’s a powerful way to build relationships and bring out the best in others.

In times of change, strong relationships are key to getting things done…

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Mindset and Change EffortsCurrently we’re talking about Mindset and how this affects your change efforts. Twice per week, we’re going to cover what we consider the bedrock of how to create a Mindset for Excellence through a series of Empowering Beliefs that will always serve you well in whatever situations you find yourself in be it at work, at home or in life in general.

You can think of these Empowering Beliefs as convenient beliefs, which if we act AS IF they are true enable us to get better results for ourselves and better results when working with other people. Now, we’re not actually saying that these Empowering Beliefs are true. What we’re saying is they’re convenient beliefs, which when we adopt them enable us to get better results. We strongly suggest that you at least try these on and test them out in your daily life because, in our experience, people who’ve adopted these and integrated them into their behavior are the people who consistently get the best results in everything they do.

So, let’s get started with Empowering Belief #1

Everyone has a Unique Model (Map) of the World. 

All our information comes in through our 5 senses and then its filtered to create our own unique model of the world.  Typical filters include: time, space, matter, energy, language, memories, decisions, beliefs, values, metaprograms, attitudes…

Every single one of us has had a different past and every single one of us has interpreted our own past in different ways. So, we all have different ideas about time, space, matter and energy. We have different ways of using language. We have different memories because we’ve had different lives. We’ve all made different decisions. We have different metaprogram preferences. We have different values and beliefs and we have different attitudes about things. What this means is that every single person has their own unique model of the world. There is only one thing that you can absolutely guarantee and that is no-one has the same model of the world that you do.

Your unique model of the world conditions how you perceive “reality”. In effect, we actually respond to our experience not to reality.

As a change leader this can be liberating because you can change your perception and in the process enhance your mindset. However, just as a ship can run aground with a faulty map, being aware of the limitations of your own map or model enables you to do something about it.

So, for the next week become more aware of how your perceptions shape how you experience reality. When you form an opinion, ask yourself:

“How do I know that is true?”

“What else could this mean?”

and notice the differences in your thinking…

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